For the most part our world tends to view regret as a very negative thing. "No regrets" is frequently heard on any reality television show, or before or after an important sporting event like Game 7 of the Stanley Cup Finals. These are probably areas where you can do something about not having regret, having "What ifs" is no fun and can drive you crazy. Do everything you can in those situations and you can avoid that. Making good decisions can also reduce regret, thinking about who you date, who you associate with, whether you compromise your values.
Last night I had a fleeting moment of regret that I think was completely unnecessary & shouldn't be a source of regret. I regretted how I was as a teenager. And it was not because I wished I hadn't drank or done drugs or been a bully, because none of those things applied. It was because I was a jock. Not the jock who walks around like they own the school, but a tomboy, I was involved in multiple sports and had no interest in anything "girly". Last night I had a brief moment where I wished I had cared more about my appearance, bothered to learn something about how to do my hair, fashion, makeup. But would that really matter? Probably not. There's no need to regret it now. I was happy then, not caring about those things didn't make me unhappy. The only real regret I think I have from that time was not having much time to shop for a prom dress, but that's just a good reminder to take & enjoy the time to buy those big ticket items that have some meaning in the future.
Not only is there no reason to regret who I was, it's probably important to recognize that those things played a role in who I am today. I guess that just begs the question of whether there's anything in my life now that could legitimately be regretted later. But I should never regret who I am, because God made me that way.
No comments:
Post a Comment